Survivors Stories DVD

DVD clips

Here are some clips from the Survivors Stories DVD, for the full video please order the Survivors Stories DVD.

Support & Information

Support & Information for Women

Domestic violence and abuse is not acceptable in any form and Survivors Stories DVD reinforces this message. Domestic Violence can occur regardless of ethnicity, religion, class, age, sexuality, disability of lifestyle. It can also occur in a range of relationships including heterosexual, gay, lesbian bisexual and trans relationships. We know that 89% of victims experiencing domestic abuse are women.

Survivors Stories DVD reinforces the shared experience of domestic violence for so many women and we hope that by viewing these interviews women in abusive relationships might identify with something they view or hear.

Women in Same Sex Relationships

It is a common misconception to view the violence that happens in some gay and lesbian relationships as “less serious” than the violence in straight relationships (Wise and Bowman, 1997) or feel less empathy for gay victims (Harris and Cook, 1994; Howard, 1984a, 1984b; Ford et al, 1998; Davies et al, 2001). Domestic violence and abuse does indeed exist in heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and Trans relationships and the violence and abuse that occurs within LGBT communities is no “less serious” than in heterosexual relationships.’

Women, facing the abuse of their female partners, bisexual women in relationships (with a male or female partner) and Trans women in abusive relationships should be offered the same support as those in heterosexual relationships, indeed the need for additional services a non-judgemental sensitive approach, and additional local support services appropriate to their specific needs, may also be required and sourced. See our links page with national LGBT resources for more help.

Female Perpetrators

The Respect Phone line will specialise in providing services to male perpetrators, but will also be available for female perpetrators and those in same sex relationships.
Please also refer to Women’s Aid.

Domestic violence national numbers
Freephone 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247

Support & Information for Men

Domestic violence and abuse is not acceptable in any form and Survivors Stories DVD reinforces this message. There are increasing reports of men living with domestic violence and yet there are few resources and services in place to support male victims. If you are a male victim of domestic violence then please contact the agencies listed.

Men in Same Sex Relationships

It is a common misconception to view the violence that happens in some gay and lesbian relationships as “less serious” than the violence in straight relationships (Wise and Bowman, 1997) or feel less empathy for gay victims (Harris and Cook, 1994; Howard, 1984a, 1984b; Ford et al, 1998; Davies et al, 2001). Domestic violence and abuse does indeed exist in heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and Trans relationships and the violence and abuse that occurs within LGBT communities is no “less serious” than in heterosexual relationships.’

Men, facing the abuse of their partners, bisexual men in relationships ( with a male or female partner) and domestic abuse experienced by Trans communities should be offered the same support as those in heterosexual relationships, indeed the need for additional services a non-judgemental sensitive approach, and additional local support services appropriate to their specific needs, may also be required and sourced. See our links below and our links page for support offered nationally.

Information

Victim Support Male Helpline

Helpline for male victims of domestic violence, sexual abuse and other crimes

0800 328 3623 (Mon-Fri 12.00-2.00pm)

[email protected]

http://www.victimsupportbirmingham-c-w.org/faq.htm

For groups for male victims in Birmingham and Sandwell phone:

0121 455 8211 for Birmingham
0121 525 4670 for Sandwell

Survivors of Sexual abuse

Helpline for male victims of sexual abuse Tel: 020 7357 8299 (Tues & Thurs 7-10pm)

www.survivors.org.uk

Men’s Advice Line and Enquiries

Helpline for male victims of domestic violence, provides information and emotional support.
Helpline number: 0808 801 0327 (freephone from landlines, mobile phone operators may charge)
Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday 10am-1pm and 2pm-5pm.

You can also get in touch by email: [email protected]

www.mensadviceline.org.uk/about-male.htm

Gay, Bi-sexual and Trans Survivors

www.stonewall.co.uk

www.psychpage.com/gay/library/gay_lesbian_violence/dv_couples_intro2.html

www.psychpage.com/learning/library/gay/gayvio.html

Male Perpetrators

Men’s violence to partners and ex-partners is largely about the misuse of power and control in the context of male dominance. Perpetrating domestic violence is unacceptable and not to be tolerated. Those who use violence and abuse are fully responsible for their behaviour and it is never the ‘fault’ of the victim partner.

Males using violent and abusive behaviour, but wish to take responsibility for the way they behave, can seek help and support. Organisations such as Respect have various programmes and support available. It is unlikely that one call to the phoneline will bring about lasting change in the men who ring, but the phoneline will be able to: encourage and motivate them to get help and to stop their violence and abuse; sign-post men to perpetrator programmes in their local area (where these exist) and calm down anyone who rings up angry or upset.

Further Information

Respect

Respect is a UK membership association. Respect’s key focus is on increasing the safety of those experiencing domestic violence through promoting effective interventions with perpetrators. Respect (the National Association for Domestic Violence Perpetrator Programmes and Associated Support Services) was officially launched at the House of Commons on 7 March 2001.

The National Association for Domestic Violence Perpetrator Programmes and Associated Support Services

http://www.respect.uk.net

Freedom Programme

Pat Craven runs ‘awareness raising’ programmes over a two day period. They are open to any man who wishes to improve his relationship skills or simply to find out more information. It is specifically aimed at males who want to make a change and wish to challenge their own beliefs and behaviour.

Contact:
Pat Craven Tel: 01547 520 228
Freedom Programme Fax: 01547 529 223
Mobile: 07789871309

PO Box 41
Knighton
LD7 9AF

[email protected]
www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

Information for Agencies and Professionals

Read our update below on types of agencies that have contacted us since our launch on 26th November 2007

Initially, the interviews were going to be used as a resource for the media during awareness raising campaigns. Whilst watching the interviews it was recognised that the DVD had a greater potential to be used as an awareness raising tool for all agencies and organisations within the public, statutory and voluntary sectors.

Each interview can be used individually and incorporated into existing in-house or multi-agency training programmes to support the agency, organisation or group being trained. For example, for professionals working with families and young people in whatever capacity, it may be useful to show them an interview by someone who grew up with domestic violence and how it impacted them as a child and then later as an adult. Alternatively, it might be helpful to hear from a mother about how the abuse affected her children and their family life.

You can choose to use the full interviews which vary in length between 6 – 21 minutes, or the short clips which vary between 1 – 3 minutes.

Accompanying each interview is a short synopsis, a brief guide to which agencies might find them specifically useful and suggested discussion points to encourage discussion and develop awareness. Transcripts of each short clip are available to download from the website. The suggested discussion points are provided as pdf’s and are located on Disc 2 of the Survivors Stories DVD.

Types of organisations that have already contacted us for information and to order the DVD:

  • Bury Family Centre, Suffolk
  • Newcastle Upon Tyne Community Safety Unit
  • Southend Women’s Aid
  • Basildon Women’s Aid
  • Montgomery Family Crisis Centre, Powys
  • ADVA Partnership, Devon County Council
  • Manchester Mixed Senior Attendance Centre
  • Vale of Glamorgan Community Safety Team
  • Safer Luton Partnership
  • Greater London Domestic Violence Project
  • Tower Hamlets Community Safety Team
  • The Relationship Centre, Warrington
  • Luton & Dunstable Hospital Maternity Unit
  • Suffolk Safeguarding Adults
  • Weaverham High School, Cheshire
  • Crown Prosecution Service, Lincoln
  • Bromsgrove Community Safety Unit
  • Luton Safeguarding Children Board
  • Milton Keynes Women’s Aid
  • Northamptonshire Police

Information for Media

See our update below on some of the media interest in Survivors Stories DVD

Each interview is available as a resource for the media during awareness raising campaigns. The DVD includes short clips of each interview, varying in length between 1 – 3 minutes, which can be used on radio, television and in newspapers or magazines. We have provided both transcripts of the audio clips and DVD film clips.

There are consistent themes throughout all the interviews: the speed at which abusive relationships progressed, when the abuse became violent, the emotional and psychological impact of the abuse and the kind of support and understanding that was needed from the professionals they came into contact with. What is also abundantly clear is that victims and perpetrators are to be found in all communities.

It is the Forum’s express hope that in watching, listening to, or reading these interviews, the public will learn how domestic violence can potentially devastate the lives of any one of us. The interviews will assist understanding of how society’s judgement of victims of domestic violence and abuse often reinforces and colludes with the beliefs of perpetrators of such abuse.

We know that isolation is a common experience for most victims and that many are unable to talk to anyone due to fear and a belief that they will not be believed. We feel sure that when these interviews are used by the media, victims of domestic violence and abuse will identify with what they see, hear or read and it will assist them in validating their feelings and experience and may then lead them to seek support.

Babergh Domestic Violence and Abuse Forum sincerely hope that the Survivors Stories DVD will prove to be a useful mechanism to further the work to support victims and survivors of domestic violence and abuse.

Cathy Press Podcast interview by Patricia Mata – Person Centred Consultancies (20 mins) on the background to Survivors Stories DVD

Saving the DVD and Audio Clips

Using your choice of media player once you have watched / listened to a clip, choose the media player options ‘file’ and then ‘ save’ in order to save to your PC desktop or a USB stick. On Quick time clips, once you have watched the clip, right click the down pointing arrow at the end of the player control bar for options to ‘Save as Source’ ( for Quicktime Pro). Alternatively, save the clip from the web address in your browser bar and click ‘add to ‘favourites’ or ‘bookmark this page’.

Media Interest in Survivors Stories DVD since 26th November 2007 and The Survivors Stories News Reel

  • The Essex Enquirier
  • Suffolk Free Press
  • East Anglian Daily Times
  • BBC News Pages
  • BBC News Suffolk
  • BBC News TV Regional Suffolk
  • BBC East Anglia – TV interview
  • SGR FM – Radio

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