Domestic violence and abuse is not acceptable in any form and Survivors Stories DVD reinforces this message. There are increasing reports of men living with domestic violence and yet there are few resources and services in place to support male victims. If you are a male victim of domestic violence then please contact the agencies listed.
Men in Same Sex Relationships
It is a common misconception to view the violence that happens in some gay and lesbian relationships as “less serious” than the violence in straight relationships (Wise and Bowman, 1997) or feel less empathy for gay victims (Harris and Cook, 1994; Howard, 1984a, 1984b; Ford et al, 1998; Davies et al, 2001). Domestic violence and abuse does indeed exist in heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and Trans relationships and the violence and abuse that occurs within LGBT communities is no “less serious” than in heterosexual relationships.’
Men, facing the abuse of their partners, bisexual men in relationships ( with a male or female partner) and domestic abuse experienced by Trans communities should be offered the same support as those in heterosexual relationships, indeed the need for additional services a non-judgemental sensitive approach, and additional local support services appropriate to their specific needs, may also be required and sourced. See our links below and our links page for support offered nationally.
Victim Support Male Helpline
Helpline for male victims of domestic violence, sexual abuse and other crimes
0800 328 3623 (Mon-Fri 12.00-2.00pm)
For groups for male victims in Birmingham and Sandwell phone:
0121 455 8211 for Birmingham
0121 525 4670 for Sandwell
Survivors of Sexual abuse
Helpline for male victims of sexual abuse Tel: 020 7357 8299 (Tues & Thurs 7-10pm)
Men’s Advice Line and Enquiries
Helpline for male victims of domestic violence, provides information and emotional support.
Helpline number: 0808 801 0327 (freephone from landlines, mobile phone operators may charge)
Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday 10am-1pm and 2pm-5pm.
You can also get in touch by email: [email protected]
Gay, Bi-sexual and Trans Survivors
Men’s violence to partners and ex-partners is largely about the misuse of power and control in the context of male dominance. Perpetrating domestic violence is unacceptable and not to be tolerated. Those who use violence and abuse are fully responsible for their behaviour and it is never the ‘fault’ of the victim partner.
Males using violent and abusive behaviour, but wish to take responsibility for the way they behave, can seek help and support. Organisations such as Respect have various programmes and support available. It is unlikely that one call to the phoneline will bring about lasting change in the men who ring, but the phoneline will be able to: encourage and motivate them to get help and to stop their violence and abuse; sign-post men to perpetrator programmes in their local area (where these exist) and calm down anyone who rings up angry or upset.
Respect is a UK membership association. Respect’s key focus is on increasing the safety of those experiencing domestic violence through promoting effective interventions with perpetrators. Respect (the National Association for Domestic Violence Perpetrator Programmes and Associated Support Services) was officially launched at the House of Commons on 7 March 2001.
The National Association for Domestic Violence Perpetrator Programmes and Associated Support Services
Pat Craven runs ‘awareness raising’ programmes over a two day period. They are open to any man who wishes to improve his relationship skills or simply to find out more information. It is specifically aimed at males who want to make a change and wish to challenge their own beliefs and behaviour.
Contact: Pat Craven Tel: 01547 520 228
Freedom Programme Fax: 01547 529 223
PO Box 41